Once I got engaged, all I did was plan. Plan, Plan, PLAN. I’m a preK teacher so planning is what I do best. You know what else I do best? DIYs. And let me tell you… they are extremely time consuming. So when it came to planning my wedding, everything was a DIY project. From the guest gift, in which my wife and I tied 120 tags that I created that said “Enjoy” around a mini Moscow Mule cup, to the ribbons tied around 120 “Thank You” notes that lie on each gold charger at the wedding, I did it all, and even roped in my wife to help lighten the load.
Being creative is something that comes naturally to me and don’t get me wrong, I loved every waking minute of planning my wedding. But after the big day on June 10th, 2017 came and went, I found myself with so much free time! I am not the type of person who can just lay around and enjoy this free time. I needed a hobby. Little did I know that I would end up finding 3 hobbies to fill all of this new time I had on my hands.
Hobby #1: Singer in a band.
My father started a band called Stosh. He has always been musically inclined and is a gifted flute player. I grew up dancing for 13 years of my life as well as preforming in musicals and plays throughout middle school. I tried voice lessons and acting lessons for a bit, but ended up getting extreme stage fright, bawling my eyes out at a vocal performance and vowing never to sing ever again. A bit dramatic I know, but give me a break. I was a young teen and still in the awkward stages of life. So when my dad asked me to join the band, my mind took me back to that traumatic experience. But I needed some new hobbies with all of this time I had on my hands. And I wanted to spend more time with my family, something I vowed to do this year as a goal to myself. So I said Yes. And I have not come to regret it one bit. I love preforming at local bars and seeing the crowed get excited and enjoy our cover band music. And I have really enjoyed knowing that I will be able to hangout with my family at least once a week for band practice in my parent’s basement (yes, we are a basement band. BIG TIME!).
Hobby #2: Sewing
I accomplished part of my goal, spending more time with my family, but my family unit consisted of more than just my dad. I wanted to spend more time with my mom as well. Before figuring out all of these new hobbies, my wife and I would watch a lot of TV (something I have been trying to cut back on). We would watch Project Runway. For those of you that are unfamiliar, it is a competition TV show in which the contestants create clothes and then one by one get eliminated each episode until there is a final winner. Watching this show sparked the creativity bug in me. I decided to ask my mom to teach me to sew. Growing up, my mom use to sew my sister and I clothes all of the time. I was that kid who’s clothes were always itchy. My mom sewed me a witch costume one year for Halloween when I was little and all I remember about that Halloween was complaining about how itchy the tule on the skirt was (looking back I owe my mom big time for sewing that elaborate outfit). Sewwww, I asked her to teach me on her sewing machine which use to be her mother’s, my grandma’s, machine. We went to Joann Fabrics and purchased 4 patterns as well as all of the material to go with it. I created my first ever shirt in just one night at my parent’s house. It took me about 6 hours, but I did it! Now, I have created about 7 different pieces since then and I’m not slowing down anytime soon!
Hobby #3: Blogging
Which now brings us to my 3rd, and I really hope final, hobby. Blogging. All of these new things I am doing have really shaped who I am and who I want to become in the next year or two and I feel as though writing about it will somehow help me hone in on my future goals.
Goal #1, don’t be afraid. I use to be so scared of how people would judge me and my stage presence/ singing. No more! My band Stosh and all of my amazing band members are extremely supportive. I haven’t even had much stage fright since the first gig we have had because I told myself that this is for no one else but me. I need to enjoy what I enjoy even if I’m not the best, most gifted vocalist out there.
Goal #2, find a way to channel my creativity. This goal is almost like killing 3 birds with one stone (and in no way do I condone killing animals. I even use fake fur when I sew!), but being in a band as well as sewing and blogging is helping my creative side blossom.
So there you have it! Now I am here. Thank you for sharing this journey with me!
Good company in a journey makes the way seem shorter. — Izaak Walton